My daughter J loves to put make up on. God knows where she gets that from cause it certainly isn’t from me. When I put mascara on I feel like I have flies on my eyes all night. The thing I can’t live without is eyeliner but otherwise I can do without the rest (to be honest concealer and blusher do make a difference but this is not about me). The point is, I didn’t start putting eye liner on, or any other kind of make up, till I graduated from high school.
It annoys me that J likes makeup so much. Although her application of it makes it look more like war paint than make up. While she is still 4 and everyone thinks it’s cute I am often left wondering what, if anything, I should do about it. She knows very well that I don’t like the makeup and think she is beautiful without it. She once said “Mama I want to put make up on because it makes me look pretty” and I told her “I don’t have any on” and she said “that’s why you look silly Mama” needless to say we had words.
The thing is my family all think this is cute, they buy her make up and tell her she looks pretty. She by no means has a complex (Alhamdulilah) but I’m worried this will eventually grow to a point where she doesn’t want to go out without make up. But if I forbid her from it and confiscate all her little lipsticks will it make it a much bigger deal than it is?
And then today I come across an article about a makeup line called GeoGirl at walmart. It is a makeup line for girls from 8 to 12. OMG! A serious makeup line! With blusher and lipstick and eyeliner and mascara. When did it become normal for 8 year olds to use make up? Is this what I am in for? When my 4-year-old does it it’s still cute but there is no way in hell I am going to have an 8-year-old who wears make up!
Am I over reacting? If she’s putting on make up at 8 then what will she be doing at 18? I mean there is a natural progression. There’s lipgloss when girls are 13 or 14. Eye liner when they are over 16- 17. High heels at that age as well. Mascara when they are in college… I started wearing mascara a few years ago! I am serious! I mean I used to only wear it when I was going to a party or a wedding. I now do sometimes on regular days.
I like that J takes care of the way she looks. As opposed to S who today wanted to go visit his grandmother in navy blue sweatpants that had a hole in them a green shirt that is a few sizes too small and I think was brown to begin with and his hair in a complete mess I thought he was wearing a fuzzy hat when he walked in the room.
J on the other hand woke up and wore a beautiful little orange dress I got for special occasions, orange socks (Have noooo idea where she found those, I think she may have done a ‘sound of music’ and cut up some drapes or a towel or something) and beige shoes with little bows on them. The she has to brush her hair so that there are ‘no bumps’ and wear a headband just so. Then she says “Can I go play with Camden outside, I promise I won’t get filfy”.
Taking care of the way you look is cute… thinking you don’t look pretty without makeup is messed up. I need to find a happy medium for J without making makeup more appealing because she can’t have it. Suggestions?