Stuff S Says About Work…

S: Mama, what’s your job?

Me: I help out in a down syndrome school. But it’s for charity.(Thinking he was asking because of the recent meetings I had with the School)

S: So you don’t get paid.

Me: No.

S: No I mean mama what is your job job?

Me: Taking care of you guys.

S: But you don’t get paid… Where do you get your money from?

Me: (WTH!) Ummm… My family…

S: So you don’t make any money? Your family gives you it?

He asks me all this in front of a hospital entrance while we (and many other people) are waiting for our cars.

Now my sisters suggested the following answers;

a) My money is invested and I get returns. (Will he ask me where I got the initial money to start with?)

b) (Suggestion from his Aunty Linlin) Like every muslim woman first from my father, then from my husband and later from my millionaire son… No pressure.

My way of dealing was then telling him, in details, my futures plans and business ideas. I hope he doesn’t ask me where I plan to get the capital to start-up this business!

So, has anyone else been asked a question like this from their child? What does that say about him I wonder! Always full of surprises and terrible timing my little S.


    • Good answer ! But to tell you the truth, I felt bad I wasn’t able to say I have a job. I know I know, raising children is rewarding and more important than any job but I wanted to be able to say this is what I do and this is how I support myself. I am blessed and grateful to be able to stay home and not work but I still feel like I should be self sufficient.

  1. Hello, i came across your blog while writing a post with a similar theme.
    As a disabled woman who has, at various times, been unemployed, I tend to take a different view of work and money.
    We are all part of a family and we all have to do our job to make sure that the family survives.
    some of us get money for our work and some of us get other rewards.
    But, when it is all said and done, we share our rewards with the entire family and the rewards that I get are no less valuable than the rewards that someone else gets.
    Just from a disabled woman’s prospective:
    it seems that (siometimes) we over-emphasize “independence,” and forget that we are all interdependent on each other. If you did not do your work, then others in their family would not be able to do theirs. So, they share their money with you and you share your rewards with them. I would try to help him understand that just labor for money is a simple way of working at “job” and “work” and to help him to broaden his horizons.
    But, as I said, my son is not even born, yet.
    Interesting blog.

    • Very well said! Thank you for your comment and welcome to my blog. ” If you did not do your work, then others in their family would not be able to do theirs” thank you! That’s so true! I know we all play a part but I guess it’s hard not to get sucked into the pressure of feeling like I should be doing something else. The thing that bothers me is I have never really had to work for money, so if I have to would I be able to? Let’s say some strange turn of events happen and I have to provide for my family… what would I do? New blog entry I guess… Good luck with the pregnancy :) and congratulations!)

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